your in-between era > everyone's highlight reel
Ever been in a group chat that feels... off lately? Or sat through brunch feeling like you're speaking a different language when you talk about what's been exciting you? Yeah, me too.
It's that moment when you realize some friendships feel more like a comfortable habit than a genuine connection. And while there's nothing wrong with friends who knew you during your still-figuring-out-who-you-are phase, sometimes you need people who know where you're trying to go.
Your vibe shifts when your circle does. It's not about dropping people or being too good for anyone - it's about finding the friends who light up when you talk about your goals, who send you podcast episodes that change your life, who pray for you without you asking.
The Signs You're Ready for New Friends:
You filter yourself in the group chat
Your growth feels lonely
You're tired of explaining why you care about certain things
Nobody gets excited about your wins
Finding your people isn't about fancy networking events or forced connections. It's about being honest about who you are and what you care about.
While everyone else is sharing their wins, you're developing something more valuable - your core. This is when you're building discernment, developing wisdom, and deepening your faith in ways that flashy seasons never could. Think of David - before he was king, he was in the fields with sheep. Not exactly Instagram worthy, but it was preparing him for everything ahead.
Your Filter This season is teaching you what you actually want, not what looks good on paper. Use this time to ask yourself:
What goals am I chasing because they're truly mine vs. what society expects?
Which dreams align with my values and faith?
What would I do even if nobody ever posted about it?
Your Future Toolkit
Every seemingly "boring" moment is adding to your arsenal:
That extra hour you spend studying your craft
The habits you're building when nobody's watching
The prayers and revelations in quiet moments
The skills you're developing without an audience
Some of the most impactful women I know had the longest "before" stories. That CEO with the seven-figure company? She spent three years working from her kitchen table before anyone knew her name. The bestselling author? She wrote four books that never got published before her breakthrough.
Making the Most of Your In-Between:
Document your growth privately - journal your insights, prayers, and small wins
Find your secret supporters - those few friends who get it and can remind you of your progress
Create micro-milestones to celebrate instead of waiting for the big breakthrough
Invest in your skills and spiritual growth without the pressure to monetize everything immediately
Remember: You're not behind. You're not stuck. You're in the middle of your becoming story. Trust the timeline.