Your Formal Invitation to Self Obsessed Summer
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Every year in girl world, there’s a specific time of year where you remember who t* you are.
welcome to that time beautiful gorgeous amazing you,
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ever since i knew flip flops existed, I loved them
HAVAIANAS Brazil the OG. the gateway drug. rubber, loud, perfect.
Flip-Flop Sandals lightly elevated, slightly less “i just ran to CVS.”
Leather Flip-Flops for when you want a flip flop that could pass for dinner somewhere without a strictish dress code
Havaianas Puffed Up the cloud version. fat. squishy. necessary.
Platform Flip Flops my lizzie mcguire dreams
STAUD Flynn Kitten Heel okay technically a kitten heel slide but so chic
The Ultimate Guide to Your Very Own Self Centered Summer
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Your formal invitation to self-obsessed summer
Return of the Mack. The most beautiful you you’ve ever known.
It’s my favorite time of year. Life starts in May, I always say that, and this May is no different.
Today we’re talking about the law of DETACHMENNTTTT BABY. Detachment. Because everything you want is on the other side of detachment, everything you are is on the other side of detachment, and wherever Jesus is, that’s where you’re ideally meant to be. He is the KING of as the Father has spoken, so it is. So here we are.
I saw this tiktok the other day and the girl said the above
Being emotionally unavailable is fun, I see why men do this.
Completelyyyyy self obsessed.
Now. I have to clear something up before we go any further because I know how this sounds. Self-obsessed summer is not man-centered. It’s not vanity. It’s not “I don’t care about anyone.” The core of it — the actual soil it grows out of — is gratitude.
Gratitude is the center. Gratitude is the center. Gratitude is the center.
Because here’s what happens. You start the year so aggressively. You’re praying, you’re planning, you’re building, you’re applying, you’re posting, you’re showing up. And by the time you get to summer you’re either like oh, I’m doing well or whatever, this is fine; but either way you’re still pouring all of your energy into outcomes and possibilities and what might happen and who might show up. And that’s the part we’re putting down.
Self-obsessed summer is when you stop pouring energy into the around.
You pour it into the you. Because you are already full. God has already done it, is doing it, will do it, and a lot of it is actually already complete. You just haven’t noticed because you’ve been watching the door.
Life is not in the building. Life is in the experiencing of building.
So. Here’s how you’re going to have a self-obsessed summer.
1. The list
Not a bucket list. A self-centered summer list.
Sit down and ask yourself: if this were my only summer on earth — ever — what would I do? Write 100 things. One hundred. The point is not to do every single one verbatim. The point is to open up your mind to the possibilities, because most of us are walking around with a summer plan that has like nine things on it and we wonder why we feel small.
2. A weekly side quest
You need one. Every week. Non-negotiable.
You are a plant. Plants need ground, water, food, love, attention. You need a side quest the same way. Something on the calendar every week that is purely for the experiencing of it. Not productive. Not strategic. Just yours.
3. Intentional plans on three sides
With your friends. With yourself. With Jesus.
For the extroverts the friends part is easy and the yourself part is where you’ll be tested. For the introverts it’s the opposite. But the one that gets skipped no matter who you are is Jesus. And I don’t mean your regular routine; your morning prayer, your scripture in the car. I mean intentionally taking time away. Like you would for a person you’re falling in love with. Because you are.
4. One fun item
A signature. One thing this summer that is so you it becomes a tell.
For me it’s red flip-flops. Red shoes in general. I want to be in obscene flip-flops that are low-key ridiculous, with the best outfits. That’s my thing this summer. Find yours. It can be small. It just has to be specifically, intentionally, on purpose yours.
5. A skill
Carve out the time and learn something girl.
Pottery. Line dancing. The dance class. The thing you keep saying you’ll get to. You can’t let your life be in the hands of other people’s lives. That’s the whole point of this.
6. A new restaurant. A new country’s food. A new order.
Try food from a country you’ve never tried. And when you get there do not order what you usually order. This is a small thing that does a big thing to your brain. You stop being a person who has a usual. You become a person who is finding out.
7. Your version of exposure therapy
If you’re shy about posting; post. At least once a day.
If you’re nervous about talking to new people, talk to someone in line. Often.
Whatever the version of “I’d love to but I can’t” is for you, that’s the assignment.
Self-obsessed summer doesn’t let you sit in a corner and be precious about it. You’re being obsessed with being, which means you have to keep meeting the next version of you, and she’s usually one uncomfortable conversation away.
And remember — it’s hot outside. It’s self-obsessed summer. (Southern hemisphere girlies, my apologies fr)
The idea here, and I could go on and on, is that you deserve to do things from you. To experience life from yourself. That is where you create. That is where you find the how of the life of your dreams.
With God. Through God. From Him.
Because that really is the only way to live from love itself at the end of the day.
prayer to open your eyes
the steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord, thank you Lord for who you are thank you for ordering my steps, thank you Lord for all you’ve done in the past, in the present, and in my tomorrow that you’re already waiting for me in.
Lord as this summer begins, open the eyes of my heart, that I might see what you’ve already provided. May my mind be the mind of Christ, if I ever put anything above you, Lord, bring my eyes back to you.
I love you Lord, and I worshi your Holy name, in Jesus name I pray,
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Amen.
have the best dayyy
