you don't beg, you become.

King Kylie was onto something big

You know that common phenomenon where a girl begs a guy to treat her a certain way, give her certain things, essentially do more than he does or is doing? And one of two things happens, she either leaves, or puts up with it for life. Whatever it is. It’s because she doesn’t realize what’s inside of her, and how to use it to get what she actually wants. Because as long as she doesn’t know what’s inside of her, she will never be able to use it. It’s like wanting to buy something, having more than enough money to get it, but not knowing that you have it.

So many girls just try to adopt this mindset of I deserve my dream body, my dream relationship, my dream friendships, my dream life, with no basis outside of, someone else told me this is what I deserve, do I deserve it.

This is why we have a dating epidemic number one, and also why we have so many people trying to understand what the Halle Berry is going on. Of course the men (subjectively) are acting like women because the women are acting like men! Hello?!

The funny thing is, as soon as let’s say the guy in question moves on to another girl, he will literallyyy do everything for her that you wanted him to do for you with no question. It’s not because she’s better than you or worth more than you - no. She just knows what her worth is. And when you know, you’re able to live in the reality of that with all the benefits it provides.

I Don’t Chase, I Attract Huh?

“I don’t chase, I attract.” It sounds nice on social media, but there’s a deeper spiritual truth behind it. Attraction isn’t just about good energy it’s about remembering who you are.

There’s a king spirit inside of you, the King of kings and the Lord of lords. This isn’t a metaphor or a feel-good saying. It’s the divine nature God placed in you by virtue of Jesus’ sacrifice on the cross.

And there’s a law connected to that royal nature: what’s outside of you will only respond to what’s been activated inside of you. You don’t need to beg for what’s already attracted to your becoming.

When you understand this, begging and entitlement fall away. Both come from forgetting your identity.

Think about kings. A king doesn’t plead. A king expects to get what they ask for. A king doesn’t try to convince. A king declares. A king makes decrees.

So what does it actually mean to have a king spirit? It’s not about being loud or ego-driven. It’s about moving through life with the quiet confidence of someone who knows they are backed by heaven.

Royalty doesn’t beg for resources, they expect them to flow because of who they are. Your spirit was made to lead, not to chase. It speaks with authority. It commands peace. It doesn’t react out of fear.

This king spirit works by laws:

• It doesn’t request, it decrees

• It knows power comes from within, not from pleasing people

• It understands that everything needed is already present as potential, they just have to draw it out by requesting it

When scripture says you’re part of a royal priesthood, it’s not talking about some future version of you. It’s who you are now. The more you operate from that identity, the less you feel the need to be seen, chosen, or validated by others. That’s the shift: from seeking to being.

Here’s where many people get stuck. We fall into a spectrum on one end is begging, on the other is entitlement.

Begging sounds like, “Please see my worth.”

Entitlement sounds like, “You owe me this. You owe me that”

But both are symptoms of a deeper issue: feeling disconnected from your real value.

I always wondered why statements like this made me shrink internally - it’s because of my king spirit. Statements like this are in direct violation of this law I’m speaking of. Because I get everything I want, not because I deserve it, no. But because of who my Father is. Because I’ve been born of the Spirit. And because I’m born of the Spirit that’s King of kings and Lord of lords, everything is mine. Not by virtue of me, but by virtue of that Spirit.

See the difference?

Neither posture honors the king within you. In fact, when you beg or demand, your king spirit pulls back. It can’t operate in environments that confuse need with identity. True abundance flows from becoming, not from asking.

Think about this: you might say “I deserve better,” but if your actions say “I’ll take whatever I can get,” then your actions are telling the real story.

Scripture says, “Out of the heart, the mouth speaks.” But sometimes your actions speak louder than both.

If you’re chasing love, recognition, or approval in desperation, it reveals a hidden belief that you’re not actually worthy of those things. Which is insane, and heaven agrees with me, because you totally are!

The Level Up Community

This also shows up in certain conversations about “leveling up” or hypergamy where people talk about attracting high-value partners or opportunities, but don’t focus on becoming “high-value” themselves. Declaring “I deserve” without transformation is just performance. True worth isn’t spoken, it’s shown.

The Unlock

You don’t chase value. You create it. You don’t convince people to treat you well. You become someone it’s impossible not to honor or treat well.

And here’s the truth: there are no “stingy” people, just misaligned relationships. The same person who withholds from you may pour into someone else. The difference isn’t them. It’s who you are in their presence. That’s why you don’t ask for things in spaces where you haven’t created value. That’s not rejection. That’s wisdom.

If a business values certain traits or aspects in their employees, that they consider valuable, they’ll pay for it (you). If a man values certain traits or aspects in a woman, that they consider valuable, they’ll pay for it. Shout out to all my girls who come from a culture with dowry lol.

True connection, where giving and receiving actually works comes from trust, relationship, and shared spirit. Without that, asking turns into begging. The king within you doesn’t operate like that. It builds. It creates. It becomes.

King Kylie Had it Right

So what does this king energy look like in real life? It’s subtle. Quiet. Powerful.

It looks like calm confidence. Like boundaries that don’t need to be explained. Like creating solutions instead of complaining about problems. Like knowing the right season will come. Like being generous from overflow, not fear.

Like walking away from what dishonors you, not to punish, but because you know who you are.

You have so much respect and reverence for that Spirit resident on your inside, that any disrespect to its status a King, is a personal affront to you. You’re just a temple girl.

When your king spirit is awake, the right people and opportunities come without you chasing. Resources flow. Open doors find you. Not because you’re lucky or loud, but because you’re aligned.

Many of us were taught to perform, to prove, or to wait to be picked. But the king spirit doesn’t wait it remembers. You don’t need to fake it till you make it. You need to uncover what’s already inside, and come hell or high water, keep it uncovered.

So yes “I don’t chase, I attract” is a cute phrase. But here’s the truth that changes everything: You don’t beg. You become.

You don’t need to lower your standards. You need to raise your identity.

Stop trying to convince people to see your worth. Start becoming so rooted in who you are that your life speaks for you.

Everything you need is already attracted to who you’re becoming. So become.

And remember

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