you are the privilege in pretty privilege
your body isn't the problem (beauty standards are)
Here's my thesis, and it might sound controversial: It doesn't matter what you look like. It only matters what you think about what you look like.
The only person's opinion about what you look like that matters is yourself. Here's why this changes everything:
1. how you see yourself controls how you treat people
You will always treat people how you treat yourself.
Your relationship with people is directly affected by your relationship with how you see yourself. When you're constantly rejecting yourself and unhappy with yourself, that energy spills into every interaction you have.
If you're harsh and critical with yourself, guess what? You're bringing that same energy to your relationships. But when you're at peace with yourself, you can love others freely because you're not withholding love from yourself.
2. your self image breaks or builds your whole system
When you are against yourself completely and are constantly rejecting yourself, you're gonna break the whole system.
You're disconnected from love itself, because love only speaks kindness and only sees kindness. If you can't see yourself with kindness, you're cutting yourself off from the very source of love.
3. how you nourish yourself reflects what you create and share with the world
Your habits when it comes to nourishing yourself are directly reflected in how you feel you nourish the world back.
When you eat from a place of self-love and care, you show up differently for others. When you move your body from joy instead of punishment, you bring that positive energy to everything you do. When you treat your body as sacred, you treat others as sacred too.
4. there’s a way you were designed to look
God created each person a certain way, and God put in each person a desire to manifest that certain way - not just in terms of your calling, but in terms of how you look.
Each body has a divine design. It has a way that it looks and a way that it's best expressed. Some people look amazing rounder. Some people look amazing leaner. It's not about the beauty standard.
The beauty standard will confuse your divine design completely. Someone who's meant to look gorgeous and stunning with a few extra pounds on them - if that is their divine design, they're going to be their most beautiful at it.
5. you’re most beatuiful when you fit the God standard, not the beauty standard
You're not your most beautiful because you fit the beauty standard. You're most beautiful because you fit the God standard.
God is a creator. He created beauty to be admired. When you try to fit beauty standards instead of honoring your divine design, you're choosing to express this world's version of beauty instead of expressing the beauty of the actual God who created you.
6. you are the privilege in pretty privledge
You are literally a flower.
Don't give away your privilege - your expression privilege - of expressing the beauty of God for expressing this world's version of beauty. Flowers don't try to look like other flowers. They just bloom as beautifully as they were created to bloom.
7. your happiness is your permission slip
You do what makes you happy. Don't force it on others because they're not you.
If you're happy and healthy eating 1,000 calories a day, all power to you. If you're happy eating 4,000 calories a day and building enough muscle to pull a truck with your hips, all power to you, sister.
The key is YOUR happiness with YOUR divine design.
8. this only works if you’ve done the inner work
This assumes that you went to therapy or you healed. That you're whole, you're happy. That there are no really big soul-level flaws to your thinking towards your self-esteem or self-image.
Because when your thinking is clear and healed, what you think about what you look like comes from a place of divine truth, not wounded lies.
at the end of the dayyyyy
It's not about what people are saying you should look like. It's about how you feel you should look, because the way that you look is divine design. The way that you desire to look is divine design.
Beauty standards are just noise trying to confuse your divine design. But your body has a specific way it's meant to be expressed, and when you honor that - when you're happy with your divine design - that's when everything else falls into place.