Three Reality Checks Before Cuffing Season Makes You Act Up

And not in a fun City Girls that one summer way ... ... ........ ... ......... ...

Sep 10, 2025

The leaves are changing colors, and so are the flags for some of you. Red is not greeen girl.

1. Dating Is Not a Hobby, Stop Treating It Like One

Dating is not something you do just to fill time or because you think you're supposed to always have someone you're "talking to." It's not like collecting stamps or learning pottery or whatever hobby we’re doing now.

Where did we even get this idea that we need to constantly have someone in rotation? Like it's some kind of mandatory activity?

Unless you're actually building something real with someone, unless there's genuine connection and mutual excitement, you don't have to force it. You really don't.

All that energy you're spending on dry conversations and trying to decode "wyd" texts at 11 PM? That's energy you could be putting into becoming the version of yourself who naturally attracts the righttttt kind of love.

You know what happens when you focus on yourself instead of chasing breadcrumbs? You start operating from abundance instead of desperation. And babeee, abundance attracts abundance. That's when the Princess Diaries 2 magic happens.

Water meets its own level. You're going to meet the right person when you're doing the right things for yourself.

2. You Know If He Wants You Stop Playing Games

Let’s be so for real. You already know where you stand with him. That voice in your head isn't lying to you, and deep down in that place where you keep your real thoughts – not the "maybe if I just..." thoughts – you know exactly what's up.

I used to be the queen of this nonsense. If someone told me they weren't looking for anything serious, I took that as confirmation that they actually DID want something serious with me specifically. I just needed to do 600 backflips and rederive the original quadratic equation to prove it.

Do you know what that was? Not low self esteem. Not delusion. It was just disrespectful. To him AND to me.

When you don't believe what someone tells you about their intentions, you're not just disrespecting them, you're disrespecting yourself. You're saying your their words don't matter either. And if you can't respect your own boundaries, why would anyone else?

His feelings about you have absolutely nothing to do with your worth. Nothing. Your value isn't determined by whether one person can see it.

And honestly? Why would you want to spend your life trying to convince someone to choose you?

You want to sign up for a lifetime of proving your worth to someone who's already told you they're not sure about you? That's not love, that's a job interview that never ends at a company that doesn’t exist because his feelings for you don’t either. They’re employed elsewhere.

Leave that man alone. He told you what it is. Believe him.

3. Don't Let Loneliness Make Your Decisions (Your Future Self Will Thank You)

Fall can bring up all kinds of feelings about wanting someone to do cozy things with, and loneliness can make terrible decisions look reasonable. But when you make choices from "I better take what I can get before the holidays," you're inviting more scarcity into your life.

Those doubts that whisper in your ear at approximately 9:58PM? They're not you. The thoughts that say "maybe this is as good as it gets" or "maybe I'm asking for too much" or “maybe there’s no one for me” that's not your voice.

Don't give life to lies that tear down what you're trying to build.

Instead, speak the truth over your future. Yessss you're going to have love that feels peaceful. Yesssssss, you deserve someone who's certain about you. Yesssssss, there's a beautiful relationship waiting for you with someone who recognizes what a gift you are.

You're amazing, you're lovable, and you deserve someone who sees that clearly without you having to convince them. If you don't believe that yet, this season is your time to prove it to yourself.

The power of your words, both out loud and in your thoughts, matters more than you think. Don't speak against yourself.

Don't agree with thoughts that destroy what you want to see happen.

You love yourself by giving yourself the time, attention, and care you're trying to get from someone else. You prove you're worth dedication by dedicating to yourself. You show you're interesting by developing interests that light you up.

The Troo Focus

Focus on building a life you're genuinely excited about. Pick up that hobby, read that book, just try things. Become so busy becoming the best version of yourself that you don't have time to entertain people who don't know your value, because you literally don’t have time 20k steps takes like 3 hours bro, let alone.

And remember, the best way to love yourself is through your relationship with Jesus. He sees you, He loves you exactly as you are, and He'll teach you how to love yourself the way you deserve.

Don't let cuffing season be settle for nothing season. You're worth someone who's sure about you from the jump.

What's one thing you can start doing this week to show yourself the kind of love you want to receive?