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This year’s (month’s?) marriage mart has officially closed. Like any great season, it’s left us with lessons, revelations, and a little more clarity than we had before.
What follows is a collection of wisdom God shown me about dating, engagement, and everything that comes after. This isn’t here to entertain—it’s here because I know firsthand how painful relationship mistakes can be. The reality? We don’t always do better because we don’t always know better. We’re all just doing our best with what we’ve got.
But here’s the thing: these principles aren’t just advice—they’re a framework. Follow them, and they’ll guide you toward what you truly want. Your desires are real, natural, and intentionally placed in you by God. So let this be a reminder: don’t settle. Not for less than you deserve, not for less than who you are, and not for less than who you’re becoming.
An End-All-Be-All List to Let Love Find You When It’s Ready
You attract what you do—for better or for worse girl.
Recap of the Rules
Maintain Your Independence: Keep your own life, interests, and career active. Men are more attracted to women who have their own goals and aren’t entirely dependent on the relationship for fulfillment.
Respect Yourself: Always carry yourself with dignity and self-respect. This will command respect from men and help maintain their interest in you.
Be a Challenge: Don’t make yourself too available or too easy to win over. Men appreciate a challenge, and it’s important to pace the relationship to keep them engaged.
Don’t Overwhelm Him: Give men space and time alone when needed. Avoid being too clingy or emotionally overwhelming, as this can push them away.
Pace the Relationship: Control the speed of the relationship, especially in the early stages. Don’t rush into things like moving in together or discussing marriage too soon.
Reveal Yourself Gradually: Maintain a sense of mystery by revealing personal information slowly over time. This keeps a man intrigued and interested in getting to know you more deeply.
Avoid Dumping Emotional Baggage Too Soon: Don’t share all your past traumas or relationship issues too early in the relationship. Men may find it overwhelming and might retreat.
Focus on Femininity: Emphasize your feminine qualities through your appearance and behavior. Men are often attracted to women who project femininity.
Be Polite and Courteous: Practice good manners, such as saying “please” and “thank you.” Men appreciate women who are polite and respectful in their interactions.
Don’t Pursue Him: Let the man take the lead in pursuing the relationship. If you chase him, it might diminish his interest and sense of achievement.
Keep Conversations Balanced: Avoid dominating conversations or talking excessively about yourself. Encourage him to share and actively listen to what he has to say.
Dress to Project Your Femininity: Pay attention to how you dress, as men often respond to visual cues. Dressing in a way that emphasizes your femininity can increase your attractiveness.
Be Confident but Not Overbearing: Confidence is attractive, but it’s important not to come across as domineering or too assertive in the relationship.
Practice Meekness and Humility: Even if you are successful or powerful, balancing these traits with meekness and humility can make you more appealing to men.
Respect His Privacy and Space: Understand that men value their privacy and alone time. Respecting this need can strengthen the relationship.
Learn to Say No Nicely: Don’t feel obligated to accept every invitation or agree to everything he suggests. Saying no politely can help maintain boundaries and respect.
Understand the Importance of Respect: Men need to feel respected in a relationship, so focus on showing respect rather than constantly trying to prove your love.
Use Subtle Flirtation: Instead of being overly aggressive, use subtle cues to show your interest. This can be more effective in keeping a man’s attention.
Be Adaptable but Maintain Boundaries: Be flexible and adaptable in the relationship, but don’t compromise on your core values or boundaries.
Don’t Make Him Your Whole World: While it’s important to care for your partner, don’t make him the center of your universe. Maintain your own identity and interests.
Show Vulnerability: Men often want to protect and care for women who show vulnerability. Don’t be afraid to let your softer side show.
Avoid Comparing Him to Others: Never compare your man to other men or previous relationships, as this can create insecurity and resentment.
Let Him Lead in Commitment: Allow the man to take the lead in moving the relationship toward commitment, such as engagement or marriage.
Balance Familiarity with Novelty: Keep the relationship exciting by balancing familiar routines with occasional surprises or new experiences.
Be Selective About Sharing: Don’t overshare too quickly. Gradually opening up as trust builds can help deepen the connection without overwhelming him.
Use Positive Reinforcement: Encourage the behaviors you like by acknowledging and appreciating them. Positive reinforcement can strengthen desired actions.
Stay True to Your Values: Maintain your personal values and standards, even when in a relationship. Men are more likely to respect a woman who stands firm on her principles.
Understand the Power of Patience: Be patient in the relationship and allow it to develop naturally. Rushing things can lead to unnecessary pressure and stress.
Don’t Try to Change Him: Accept the man for who he is rather than trying to change him. Men are more likely to stay committed when they feel accepted as they are.
Show Interest in His Interests: Take the time to learn about and engage with his hobbies and interests. This can help build a deeper connection.
Learn to Walk Away from a Dead-End Relationship: If a relationship isn't going anywhere or isn’t fulfilling, it’s important to recognize when to move on rather than holding on to false hope.
Don't Play Mind Games: While maintaining mystery is important, avoid manipulative behaviors or mind games, as these can backfire and erode trust.
Don’t Reveal All Your Plans: Keep some aspects of your future plans or desires private until the relationship reaches a more secure stage. This can prevent unnecessary pressure.
Stay Positive and Optimistic: A positive attitude can be very attractive. Men are drawn to women who exude optimism and a sense of well-being.
Be Selective About Complaints: If something bothers you in the relationship, choose your battles wisely. Constant complaining can drive a wedge between you and your partner.
Don’t Overcommit Too Soon: Avoid making major commitments early in the relationship, like moving in together or merging finances, until you’re sure of the relationship’s direction.
Stay Informed and Educated: Being knowledgeable and well-read can be attractive, but balance it with humility and openness in discussions with your partner.
Be Grateful and Show Appreciation: Regularly express gratitude for the things your partner does for you. This can reinforce positive behavior and strengthen your bond.
Avoid Oversharing on Social Media: Keep your relationship details off social media, especially during the early stages. Publicizing everything can add unnecessary pressure.
Don’t Make Assumptions: Communicate openly with your partner rather than assuming you know what he’s thinking or feeling. This can prevent misunderstandings.
Understand His Love Language: Learn what makes your partner feel loved and appreciated, whether it’s words of affirmation, acts of service, gifts, quality time, or physical touch.
Balance Your Time: While it’s important to spend time together, make sure you also spend time apart, nurturing other relationships and hobbies.
Embrace Your Unique Qualities: Be yourself rather than trying to fit into what you think he wants. Authenticity is more attractive than trying to be someone you’re not.
Be Honest About Your Intentions: If you’re looking for a serious relationship, be clear about your intentions. This helps to ensure that both partners are on the same page.
Don’t Sacrifice Your Goals for the Relationship: Continue to pursue your personal and professional goals. A good partner will support your ambitions.
Be Patient with His Growth: Understand that personal growth takes time, and be patient with your partner’s development in the relationship.
Avoid Ultimatums: Instead of issuing ultimatums, try to have open and honest conversations about your needs and expectations.
Support His Dreams: Show interest in and support your partner’s dreams and ambitions, just as you would want him to support yours.
Be Mindful of Your Tone and Delivery: How you say things can be just as important as what you say. Use a gentle tone when discussing sensitive topics.
Invest in Yourself: Continuously work on your personal growth, whether through education, hobbies, or self-care. This not only benefits you but also keeps the relationship vibrant.
Be Flexible and Open to Compromise: Relationships require give and take. Being willing to compromise can help resolve conflicts and strengthen your partnership.
Trust Your Instincts: If something doesn’t feel right in the relationship, trust your instincts and address the issue directly rather than ignoring it.
Know When to Take a Break: If the relationship is becoming too intense or overwhelming, it’s okay to take a step back and reassess your feelings and the direction you want to go.
Prioritize Mutual Respect: Ensure that respect is a cornerstone of your relationship, both in how you treat your partner and how you expect to be treated.
Celebrate Small Wins Together: Acknowledge and celebrate the small successes in your relationship, which can help build a stronger connection.
Practice Emotional Intelligence: Understand and manage your emotions and be aware of your partner's emotional state. This can help you navigate challenges more effectively and maintain harmony in the relationship.
Stay True to Your Boundaries: While compromise is important, don’t sacrifice your core boundaries and values for the sake of the relationship. This ensures you maintain your self-respect and the respect of your partner.
Reflect on Your Own Patterns: Take time to reflect on your past relationships and recognize any patterns in behavior that may need adjusting. Self-awareness can lead to healthier future relationships.
Invest in Mutual Growth: Encourage growth not just individually but also as a couple. Engage in activities that allow both partners to develop together, such as learning new skills or pursuing shared goals.
Be Consistent in Your Actions: Consistency in behavior and actions builds trust. Make sure your words align with your actions to reinforce stability in the relationship.
Avoid Comparing Your Relationship to Others: Every relationship is unique, so avoid comparing yours to others. Focus on what works best for you and your partner.
Communicate Your Needs Clearly: While it’s important to be patient and understanding, don’t shy away from clearly communicating your needs and desires in the relationship.
Adapt to Change Together: Be willing to adapt as life circumstances change, and work together with your partner to navigate these changes.
Understand the Importance of Timing: Timing can be crucial in relationships. Recognize when it’s the right time to discuss serious topics or make important decisions.
Celebrate Your Partner’s Successes: Show genuine happiness and pride in your partner’s achievements, as this strengthens the bond and fosters mutual support.
Balance Emotional Availability: Be emotionally available, but also respect your partner's need for space. Finding this balance helps maintain a healthy dynamic.
Show Empathy and Understanding: When conflicts arise, try to understand your partner’s perspective and show empathy. This can help resolve issues more constructively.
Be Prepared to Walk Away if Necessary: Know your worth and be prepared to leave a relationship if it’s no longer serving your well-being or happiness. It’s better to be single than in an unhealthy relationship.
Maintain a Sense of Humor: Laughter and a light-hearted approach can sometimes ease tensions and bring you closer together. Don’t underestimate the power of humor in a relationship.
Don’t Lose Yourself in the Relationship: Keep nurturing your individuality. It’s essential to remain connected to who you are, even as you grow closer to your partner.
Understand His Triggers: Recognize what might trigger negative reactions in your partner, whether it’s certain topics, behaviors, or pressures, and navigate those areas with care.
Encourage Open Communication: Foster an environment where your partner feels safe to express his thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment or reprisal.
Be Mindful of His Boundaries: Just as you have your own boundaries, be aware of and respect your partner’s limits, whether emotional, physical, or psychological.
Support His Independence: Just as you value your independence, support his need for time alone or with his friends, understanding that a healthy relationship includes space for individual activities.
Don’t Try to Fix Everything: If your partner is dealing with an issue, sometimes he might just want to vent rather than receive advice or solutions. Be there to listen, not necessarily to fix.
Show Interest in His Passions: Even if you don’t share the same hobbies, showing interest in his passions can strengthen your bond and demonstrate your support.
Encourage Mutual Growth: Engage in activities or discussions that allow both of you to grow together, whether through learning, travel, or shared experiences.
Be Aware of Financial Dynamics: Understand that financial matters can be a sensitive topic. Approach discussions about money with care, especially if there are significant differences in income or spending habits.
Recognize When to Compromise: Know when it’s important to stand firm and when it’s better to compromise for the sake of harmony in the relationship.
Stay Calm in Conflicts: During disagreements, maintaining a calm demeanor can help de-escalate tensions and lead to more productive discussions.
Balance Emotional Expression: While it’s important to express your feelings, balance is key. Avoid overwhelming your partner with too much emotional intensity all at once.
Be Flexible with Expectations: Understand that life and relationships don’t always go as planned. Being flexible with your expectations can help you navigate challenges more smoothly.
Understand the Power of Silence: Sometimes, saying nothing can be more powerful than any words. Learn when to use silence effectively in conversations or conflicts.
Celebrate the Small Things: Don’t wait for big milestones to show appreciation. Celebrate the small victories and moments in your relationship to keep the connection strong.
Invest in Emotional Intelligence: Continually work on understanding both your emotions and those of your partner. This can help you navigate the ups and downs of the relationship more effectively.
Recognize the Importance of Timing: Timing can be everything in a relationship. Recognize when it’s the right time to discuss serious matters or when to simply enjoy each other’s company.
Be Mindful of Power Dynamics: In some relationships, there might be an imbalance of power due to differences in age, experience, or finances. Be aware of this and strive for balance.
Offer Genuine Apologies: When conflicts arise, be willing to apologize genuinely if you’ve made a mistake. This can go a long way in maintaining respect and harmony.
Avoid Ultimatums: Instead of issuing ultimatums, work towards finding common ground through open dialogue and mutual understanding.
Encourage a Healthy Lifestyle: Support each other in maintaining a healthy lifestyle, whether through diet, exercise, or mental well-being. This can strengthen both your relationship and your individual health.
Be Prepared for Life’s Changes: Life circumstances can change, and it’s important to be adaptable. Whether it’s a career change, a move, or family dynamics, being prepared can help you navigate these transitions together.
Show Gratitude Regularly: Expressing gratitude for the little things your partner does can strengthen the relationship and make both of you feel appreciated.
Understand His Love Language: Learn how your partner expresses and receives love, and try to meet him in his love language, whether it’s through words, actions, or physical touch.
Be Open to Learning: Relationships are a continual learning process. Be open to learning more about yourself, your partner, and how you can improve together.
Build a Strong Foundation of Trust: Trust is the cornerstone of any relationship. Focus on building and maintaining trust through honesty, integrity, and consistency.
Learn to Read Between the Lines: Sometimes men may not express their needs or concerns directly. Pay attention to subtle cues and body language to better understand his feelings.
Encourage His Individuality: Support your partner in pursuing his individual interests and passions, even if they differ from your own.
Avoid Making Assumptions: Instead of assuming you know what he wants or feels, ask open-ended questions to better understand his perspective.
Be Mindful of Financial Expectations: Financial dynamics can be sensitive. Approach discussions about money with understanding and openness, ensuring both partners feel comfortable.
Create Shared Goals: Work together to set and pursue common goals, whether they are related to finances, lifestyle, or future plans. This can strengthen your bond and create a sense of partnership.
Maintain a Healthy Balance of Power: Ensure that both partners feel empowered and respected in the relationship, avoiding situations where one partner dominates or controls the other.
Recognize the Value of Emotional Support: Men may not always seek emotional support, but providing it when needed can strengthen your relationship and build deeper trust.
Be Aware of His Social Circle’s Influence: Recognize that a man’s friends and social circle can influence his behavior and decisions in a relationship. Understanding this dynamic can help navigate potential challenges.
Cultivate Mutual Respect: Mutual respect is fundamental to any healthy relationship. Ensure that both partners feel respected and valued for who they are.
Understand the Importance of Consistency: Being consistent in your actions, words, and behavior helps build trust and reliability in the relationship.
Be Patient with Growth and Change: Both partners will grow and change over time. Patience and understanding during these phases can help maintain a strong relationship.
Communicate Clearly and Effectively: Open, honest, and clear communication is key to resolving conflicts and building a strong foundation.
BONUS: What You Need to Know About ✨Men✨
We spent the whole time focusing on you. But what about them? Disclaimer: We love men. Society would crumble without them lifting heavy things, holding stuff for us (including the seed that keeps humanity going), and doing boy jobs.
Men as Hunters: Men are naturally inclined to pursue and value a challenge. Women should not chase men, as it diminishes their interest and attraction. Instead, women should allow men to pursue them.
Respect vs. Love: In relationships, men prioritize respect over love, while women often focus on love. Women should show respect to maintain a man's interest and commitment.
Pacing the Relationship: Women should control the pace of the relationship, particularly in the early stages. This includes not being too available and allowing the man to lead in significant decisions like engagement or marriage.
Avoiding Overwhelm: Men need space and can feel overwhelmed if a woman is too clingy or demanding. Women should give men space to process their feelings and thoughts.
Vulnerability and Femininity: Despite being successful or powerful, women should maintain their femininity and vulnerability, as these qualities attract men and make them feel protective.
The Power of Meekness: Women who combine power and meekness are highly attractive to men, as men do not expect this combination and are often drawn to it.
Men's Need for Space: Women should understand that men need space and should not overwhelm them with constant attention or demands.
Men are naturally hunters: They value the pursuit and enjoy the challenge of winning over a woman.
Men lose interest when chased: If a woman pursues a man, it diminishes his interest and attraction.
Men prioritize respect over love: While women often focus on love, men need respect in a relationship to feel valued and committed.
Men are drawn to mystery: They are more interested in women who reveal themselves gradually and maintain an air of mystery.
Men love a challenge: They are more attracted to women who are not easily attainable and who maintain boundaries.
Men get bored easily: They may lose interest if the relationship progresses too quickly or if they do not feel challenged.
Men love privacy and space: They need time alone and may find chatty or overly attached women overwhelming.
Men propose when they fear losing you: They are more likely to commit when they feel there is a risk of losing the woman.
Men are irrational in love: They may overlook flaws and be captivated by a woman they are in love with, even if her behavior is not ideal.
Men fall in love faster but also fall out of love faster: Their emotions can be intense initially but may wane if not properly nurtured.
Men prefer independent women: They are more attracted to women who have their own lives, careers, and interests.
Men dislike being overwhelmed: They prefer relationships where they are not constantly pursued or pressured by the woman.
Men are irrational in love: They may overlook flaws and be captivated by a woman they are in love with, even if her behavior is not ideal.
Men like neat and clean women: Hygiene and personal care are important to them, and they are turned off by women who are not well-groomed.
Men like women who project femininity: They prefer women who dress and behave in ways that emphasize their femininity.
Men do not like change: They are resistant to being forced or manipulated into changing by a woman.
Men want women who are a little unattainable: They tend to value women who don't immediately say yes to everything and who set boundaries.
Men are conquerors by nature: They enjoy the feeling of achieving something that wasn't easily given to them.
Men don't like women who impose on them: They prefer women who respect their boundaries and don't try to control or change them.
Men may be frightened by powerful women: They may feel intimidated by women who are very wealthy or influential but will be attracted if these women show meekness and humility.
Men do not marry girlfriend material: When ready to marry, men seek women they see as wife material, not someone who is just for casual relationships.
Men want something they can protect: They are drawn to women who display vulnerability and softness.
Men change because they want to, not because they are forced: A man will make changes in his behavior when he decides to, not because a woman imposes them on him.
Men are drawn to women who don’t chase them: They are more likely to commit to a woman who does not pursue them and maintains her own life.
Men are driven by the need to conquer: This includes relationships, where they enjoy the challenge of winning over a woman.
Men value exclusivity: They are more serious about a relationship when they feel that the woman is not easily available to others.
Men dislike feeling trapped: They prefer relationships where they feel free to make their own decisions without pressure.
Men are irrational in love: They may overlook flaws and be captivated by a woman they are in love with, even if her behavior is not ideal.
Men are naturally hunters: They enjoy the challenge of pursuing and capturing, much like a hunter with prey.
Men lose interest when chased: A woman pursuing a man removes the challenge and makes him lose interest.
Men prioritize respect over love: While women often seek love, men need respect to feel valued in a relationship.
Men love a challenge: They are attracted to women who are not easily attainable and who set boundaries.
Men get bored easily: Men may lose interest quickly if the relationship progresses too fast or becomes too easy.
Men love privacy and space: They need time alone and may feel overwhelmed by women who are overly talkative or clingy.
Men propose when they fear losing you: Commitment often comes when men feel there is a real risk of losing the woman.
Men are irrational in love: They may find flaws in a woman endearing when they are in love, but this can change if the relationship becomes stagnant.
Men fall in love faster but also fall out of love faster: They can be very intense initially but may lose interest if not challenged.
Men prefer independent women: Independence and having one's own life and interests make a woman more attractive to men.
Men dislike being overwhelmed: Too much attention or pressure from a woman can push a man away.
Men like neat and clean women: Hygiene and grooming are important, and men are turned off by women who are not well-maintained.
Men like women who project femininity: They prefer women who emphasize their feminine qualities through their appearance and behavior.
Men do not like change: They resist being forced to change by their partners and prefer women who accept them as they are.
Men want women who are a little unattainable: They value women who don't immediately agree to everything and who maintain some distance.
Men are conquerors by nature: They enjoy the process of winning over a woman and prefer relationships where they feel they've "earned" the woman’s affection.
Men don't like women who impose on them: Women who try to control or change a man are likely to push him away.
Men may be frightened by powerful women: Wealthy or influential women can intimidate men, but meekness and humility can counterbalance this.
Men do not marry girlfriend material: When it comes to marriage, men seek women they see as wife material, not just casual partners.
Men want something they can protect: They are drawn to women who show vulnerability and who need their protection.
Men change because they want to, not because they are forced: A man will make changes in his behavior only if he decides to do so on his own.
Men are drawn to women who don’t chase them: Men prefer to pursue rather than be pursued and are more likely to commit to women who maintain their independence.
Men value exclusivity: They take relationships more seriously when they feel that the woman is not easily available to others.
Men dislike feeling trapped: They prefer relationships where they feel free and unpressured.
Men are irrational in love: They may overlook flaws and be captivated by a woman they are in love with, even if her behavior is not ideal.
Men like to see their partner in traditional feminine roles: Men often appreciate when women dress and behave in a way that emphasizes traditional femininity.
Men are more visual than verbal in love: They are more likely to fall in love based on what they see, rather than what they hear.
Men do not want to be overwhelmed by a woman’s emotional baggage: Dumping too much emotional information early on can scare men away.
Men like women who are confident and self-assured: A woman who carries herself with grace and confidence is more attractive to men.
Men dislike women who dominate conversations: A woman who talks too much or shares too much too soon can be off-putting to men.
Men appreciate women who maintain mystery: They are drawn to women who reveal themselves slowly over time.
Men often prefer long hair on women: Traditional notions of femininity, such as long hair, are often more attractive to men.
Men do not like women who are too forward or aggressive: Forward behavior can make men feel less challenged and more likely to lose interest.
Men like to feel they are the decision-makers in relationships: They prefer to be the ones leading the relationship, including initiating important steps like engagement.
Men are competitive by nature: They thrive on challenges and may lose interest in a relationship that feels too easy.
Men can be intimidated by women who are too successful or powerful: Success and power in a woman can be intimidating, but men appreciate it if these traits are balanced with humility.
Men may value a woman’s relationship with her family: How a woman speaks about and interacts with her family can influence a man’s perception of her.
Men appreciate politeness and good manners: Women who are polite and respectful in their interactions are more likely to attract and keep a man’s interest.
Men value a woman’s self-respect: A woman who respects herself is more likely to command respect from a man.
Men are less likely to change after marriage: A man’s behavior and habits are unlikely to change significantly after marriage, so it’s important to accept him as he is.
Men are more likely to take a relationship seriously if they feel challenged: If a woman doesn’t make things too easy, men are more likely to be serious about the relationship.
Men are unlikely to commit if they feel the woman is too eager: Eagerness and desperation can push men away.
Men are likely to move away from women who are too available: Availability at all times can make men feel less interested.
Men can get angry if they feel they are being manipulated: Trying to manipulate or control a man can lead to frustration and the eventual end of the relationship.
Men value women who maintain their own lives and interests: Men are more attracted to women who have their own careers, hobbies, and social circles.
Men are likely to respect a woman who has clear boundaries: Setting and maintaining boundaries can earn a man’s respect and keep his interest.
Men may test a woman’s boundaries to see if she is serious: Men might push boundaries to test how firm a woman is in her convictions.
Men appreciate women who are calm and composed: A calm demeanor, especially in challenging situations, is attractive to men.
Men are likely to take a woman for granted if she is too available: Over-availability can lead men to undervalue the relationship.
Men value a woman’s ability to maintain her own social life: Having friends and social activities outside the relationship makes a woman more attractive.
Men don’t like being questioned or pressured about marriage: Bringing up marriage too soon can make men feel pressured and push them away.
Men are likely to propose when they see a future with the woman: Men need to envision a future with the woman before they are willing to commit.
Men may act differently in love than in other relationships: A man’s behavior toward a woman he loves can differ significantly from how he interacts with others.
Men may stay in a relationship out of convenience rather than love: Some men may remain in a relationship because it’s comfortable, even if they are not in love.
Men are more likely to cheat if they feel their needs are not being met: If a man feels neglected or unchallenged, he may seek fulfillment elsewhere.
Men appreciate women who are good listeners: Being a good listener can help strengthen a relationship and keep a man engaged.
Men value loyalty in a relationship: Loyalty is a key factor in keeping a man committed.
Men may retreat when they feel overwhelmed: If a man feels overwhelmed by a relationship, he may withdraw emotionally or physically.
Men value a woman’s ability to maintain her own identity: Losing oneself in a relationship can lead to a man losing interest.
Men appreciate women who understand their need for personal space: Respecting a man’s need for time alone can help maintain the relationship.
Men respond to physical attraction: Men are often more visually oriented, and physical appearance plays a significant role in their initial attraction to a woman.
Men are sensitive to how women present themselves: Beyond just neatness and cleanliness, men are affected by how a woman carries herself, including posture, grace, and overall composure.
Men can be influenced by societal and cultural norms: The content suggests that men’s behavior and expectations can be shaped by cultural norms, such as those seen in hip-hop culture, which may affect their views on relationships.
Men can be manipulated by highly skilled women: The content mentions that men, including men of God, can be led astray by women who are well-trained in certain manipulative techniques, especially during vulnerable times.
Men can sometimes marry women they don’t truly value: While men may sometimes marry women who are easily attainable, they are likely to take these women for granted and not value the relationship as much.
Men often need to feel like they are the ones "winning": Men may prefer to feel like they are "winning" a woman’s affection or achieving something difficult, rather than having it handed to them easily.
Men are not easily changed by external pressures: Even with significant influence, men are unlikely to change their core behaviors and attitudes unless they choose to do so themselves.
Men may exhibit different behavior based on age or maturity: Older men might respond differently to certain situations compared to younger men, especially in how they handle relationships.
Men often want to avoid drama or complicated relationships: Men are generally not looking for relationships that come with a lot of emotional or psychological baggage.
Men may be driven by instinctual behaviors: The content compares men’s behavior to that of animals, suggesting that some male behaviors in relationships are instinctual and deeply rooted in their nature.
Men may react differently based on their upbringing: A man’s background, such as whether he grew up in a traditional or modern household, can influence his behavior and expectations in relationships.
Men might equate a woman’s value with how she handles her personal life: Men could perceive a woman’s ability to manage her life, including her career, friendships, and family relationships, as a reflection of her potential as a partner.
Men could be influenced by their peers: A man's behavior and decisions in a relationship can sometimes be swayed by the opinions or behaviors of his male friends or social group.
Men’s long-term commitment might hinge on a woman’s understanding of his needs: If a woman demonstrates an understanding of what a man needs emotionally and psychologically, it might deepen his commitment.
Men might withdraw if they sense too much emotional dependence: While men appreciate being needed, too much emotional dependence from a woman can make them feel overwhelmed and lead them to withdraw.
Men may value a woman's ability to navigate social situations: A woman’s social skills, including how she interacts with his friends, family, and colleagues, can impact how a man views the long-term potential of the relationship.
Men may test boundaries to understand a woman’s values: Men might push certain boundaries in a relationship to see where a woman stands on issues of importance to her, which can influence their respect for her.
Men might respect women who stand firm on their principles: A woman who is consistent and firm in her beliefs and values, even when challenged, is often more respected by men.
Men might appreciate subtle flirtation over overt advances: While men enjoy being pursued to some degree, they might prefer subtle signs of interest rather than overt or aggressive advances from women.
Men’s interest can be maintained through a balance of familiarity and novelty: A relationship that offers both comfort and the occasional surprise or new experience might keep a man more engaged and interested.
Men Value Discretion: Men may appreciate women who are discreet about the relationship, especially in its early stages. Publicly sharing too much too soon can make them uncomfortable.
Men Can Be Pragmatic in Relationships: Men might approach relationships with a more practical mindset, considering factors like compatibility, shared goals, and long-term potential.
Men May Fear Vulnerability: While women are often encouraged to be open, men might fear vulnerability and avoid discussing their deepest feelings until they trust their partner deeply.
Men May Prioritize Stability: Men often value stability and might be drawn to women who provide a sense of calm and order in their lives.
Men Can Be Impacted by Their Past: A man’s previous relationships or childhood experiences can significantly influence how he behaves in current relationships, including his fears, insecurities, and expectations.
Men May Appreciate Subtle Praise: Men often respond well to genuine, subtle praise, particularly related to their strengths, efforts, or achievements.
Men Need to Feel Respected in Their Roles: Whether it’s in their career, family, or social circles, men often need to feel respected in the roles they occupy, and this respect can extend into their romantic relationships.
Men Often Prefer Women Who Are Supportive: A supportive partner who encourages his goals and ambitions can make a significant impact on a man’s commitment to the relationship.
Men Appreciate Competence: Men are often attracted to women who are competent and capable in their chosen fields or interests. This can include career success, personal hobbies, or skills.
Men May Have Unspoken Expectations: Some men may have certain expectations in a relationship that they don’t verbalize. Understanding this can help women navigate potential misunderstandings.
Men Often Value Tradition: Many men, consciously or subconsciously, adhere to traditional gender roles, which might influence their expectations in a relationship.
Men Can Be Sensitive to Criticism: While constructive feedback is important, men may react strongly to criticism, especially if it feels like an attack on their competence or identity.
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Selah, dream girl.
