The Subtle Art of Starting Over
Starting over is a necessary right of passage that happens over and over again
The best part is you’re the best part
OF EVERYTHING. Think about all of your greatest moments with me for a second. Get that highlight reel going, think of all of the amazing wonderful brilliant things that have happened to you.
What was the common demoninator?
God and WHOOOO?
YOUUUU girl. You’re the one that makes everything MWAH. You’re what God’s goodness gets to demonstrate through. Well technically your faith but same thing its part of you.
You’re the best part. Nothing outside of you is the best part. Heaven’s rooting for you and I’m rooting for you.
☆LETTER FROM THE EDITOR
☆ MOTIVVV
☆ FLIP FLOP SZN
☆ PRAYER FOR JUNE
BLUSHIES
if you’re on the same side of tiktok as me you know blush is everything, it’s like when we were in our highlight era, I love womanhood idk here are some I’m eyeing for lack of a better word
RHODE
Hailey never disappoints kind of like her man, nothing but good things.
RARE BEAUTY
I’ve used this for years and to be honest, there is no other quite like it it’s just perfect when you want liquid on liquid.
NARS
My shayla.
SAIE
Saie is so good for your skin! And the glowy-ness of it all is just icing on the cake!
BENEFIT
Only added because I love the packaging, how cute.
The Subtle Art of Starting Over
There’s a version of you waiting on the other side of being willing to look a little cringe
Nobody tells you that part. Everyone wants the glow-up and the rebrand and the “how did she do that?” moment. What they don’t want is the awkward beginning.
But starting over is the single most useful skill a woman can have.
At some point you have to admit that the identity you built to survive isn’t the one that gets you where you’re going.
Maybe you were the quiet one, or the responsible one, or the “be realistic” one. Maybe you made yourself smaller so nobody would question you. Maybe you stayed in the safe job and the safe town because it made sense on paper. But safe and stagnant can look identical from the outside.
Most girlies aren’t afraid of failing because they’ve never actually failed before, they’re just afraid of being witnessed trying Someone saying “who does she think she is.” Old facebook friends watching the videos. Family seeing them attempt something new and possibly flop. Being judged by people who’ve never once risked anything themselves.
That’s the trap.
When you fear judgment more than you fear regret, you start building your whole life around other people’s comfort. You keep the town, you keep the career, you keep the worn-in version of yourself, and you stay loyal to a story you don’t even want to be in anymore.
You’re allowed to change your mind.
You’re allowed to become someone new. The version of you that people remember doesn’t get to define you forever unless you let it.
Think about Sabrina Carpenter. She could have let the public keep her filed under “former Disney kid.” Instead she just kept working, kept putting things out, and slowly made the audience update the file.
This is where opportunity maxing comes in.
Opportunity maxing means treating your life like a hallway full of doors instead of one narrow path with one acceptable outcome. It’s the habit of asking what would actually happen if you gave the thing a real shot. If you posted the video. Applied to the program. Moved. Went back to school. Launched the offer the biz whatever.
The time passes regardless. If you’re 30 and you want the degree, you’ll be 34 in four years either way, and the only real question is whether you’re 34 with the degree or 34 still wishing you’d started. It’s the same with the brand, the business, the career change. By next year you’ll either have a body of work or a list of reasons you never made one.
Outliving your own potential is worse than any comment a stranger could leave.
The life you actually want is going to make you question what you assumed was possible. It’s going to ask you to stop shrinking your desires to fit your current circumstances, and to stop asking permission from people who are invested in keeping you the same.
Starting over doesn’t mean you failed. Sometimes it means you finally got honest.
Once you’re honest, you can move. You can start at zero and be clumsy before you’re good. Post the first video. Write the first paragraph. Take the first class. Make the first pivot. It will feel awkward, and that’s fine, because awkward is usually just the cost of becoming visible in a new way.
So let yourself be new. Let yourself be seen trying. Let yourself outgrow the self you built around fear and approval and getting by.
The life you want isn’t waiting for you to become fearless. It’s waiting for you to stop letting the fear make your decisions.
Start small, start messy, but start. The future version of you isn’t embarrassed that you tried. She’s relieved you finally did.
make your first 10k online this summer
I know a little bit about building brands. I’ve done it since the Tumblr days (shout out to my Blake Griffin and One Direction fanfic readers, you were all loyal). My most recent, Godly Girlfriend, is just proof of the same thing.
Making money IRL is the same as making money online. It’s just a slight little change or tweak in how you communicate what you know, and how it can serve other people.
Godly Girlfriend, for example, sells vibes. The only product I sell is this book.
It’s great, and I think it’s more of a field guide than a book. Either way, it’s an amazing proof of what it means to create a platform, build a brand, then monetize the brand in a meaningful, non-sleazy way. An organic way.
Selling organically is the same. You do it all the time IRL. You go to school or you learn a skill. Someone needs that skill and they hire you for your skill. They don’t hire you because they know you need a job. A lot of people need a job. They hire you because you have something they need and are willing to pay for.
Selling online is the same way.
Building a brand online and selling organically is the same way, except instead of going to school to acquire the valuable asset that is the skill set, you build the asset through attention.
E.g., you build a following, you build a community, and then you offer that community something they need. You become the person who’s hiring, in a sense, because you are offering an opportunity for them, your community, your people, to get what they want from you. It’s a bit meta, but it was really the unlock, because I’ve tried many an online business model, from dropshipping to white labeling, etc. If it’s looked promising, I’ve tried it. But this, Godly Girlfriend, was the click for me.
If you want to try it out, check this out. This is the entire framework.
It doesn’t get more complicated than this. It’s quite simple.
And if you want to do this with me liveeeee, I’m hosting a workshop on June 15th at 8PM EST
where I’ll walk you through how to start doing this, and not only start doing it, but make this summer your 10k summer. :”)
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(Oh and if you’re busy that day, look through this, it’s everything I’ve always done)
prayer for june
Lord, I surrender my anxieties and racing thoughts into Your loving hands. Grant me the strength to trust Your wisdom, for You know the path ahead. Fill my mind with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding. Help me focus on the present moment, leaving behind the weight of unnecessary worries. Guide my thoughts towards what is true, noble, and praiseworthy. In Your presence, may overthinking lose its hold on me, and may Your calming grace prevail. I place my faith in You, the ultimate source of peace and serenity.
Amen.
have the besttttttttttttt week. <3
