I’ve been in it since 2020. And when I say in it, I mean in it. Not reading about it. Not watching other people do it. In it. Trying things. Losing things. Letting things go that were never mine. And somewhere between the faith arc, the quasi break ups, and the financial literacy I had to teach myself, I started seeing the pattern.
How you do one thing is how you do everything.
How you do money is how you do love. How you do your health is how you do your faith. When you’re up, you’re up in everything. And when you’re not, it touches everything.
So I can’t talk about money without talking about men. Can’t talk about mindset without talking about both. They’re the same conversation wearing different foundation brands.
the middle class won’t exist soon
Making a hundred thousand in 2019 is not making a hundred thousand now. A degree that opened doors five years ago doesn’t open the same doors today. The economy keeps inflating and you keep getting less for more. That’s the situation. That’s the situationship.
We’re in the knowledge-sharing economy now. Everyone has AI on their phone. You can build an app without code. Information isn’t the thing anymore. What you do with it is the thing.
So what are you building?
Because the middle class is thinning. And soon there will be people who build things and people who don’t. That’s it. Those are the two options.
Invest. In yourself, yes. But also literally. Gold. Silver. ETFs. Put your money somewhere it can grow because cash just sitting in your checking account is losing value every day. It’s like orange juice someone keeps adding water to. Same glass. Same color. But you can taste the difference.
parable of the talents
When Jesus taught the parable of the talents, He gave one servant five. Another two. Another one. Each according to his ability.
The first two multiplied theirs. The third one buried his. Out of fear. Out of caution. Out of whatever story he told himself about why it was safer to do nothing.
And the master didn’t call him careful. He called him unfaithful.
I think about this all the time now.
Your mind is a talent. Your body is a talent. Your time is a talent. Your creativity, your ability to love well, your capacity to build something out of nothing, those are talents. And every single day you are either multiplying them or burying them in the ground because you’re scared of what happens when you actually try.
A man is not a financial plan. I don’t care who he is. I don’t care what his family has. If you don’t know where your money lives, how it grows, what it does while you sleep, you’re not stewarding what God gave you. You’re outsourcing it.
Outsourcing is not faithfulness.
your value is set in stone
Not like a poster on a wall. Like the Word of God. Which is what it is.
Your price is far above rubies. That’s not cute. That’s not a caption. It’s scripture and it’s over your life whether you act like it or not.
Too many of us move like our worth depends on who responded. Who watched the story. Who picked us. We treat ourselves like a stock price — up, down, volatile, dependent on conditions we can’t control.
But your value doesn’t change. The only thing that changes is your perception of it. And perception is everything.
If you see yourself as low, you move low. You stop caring about your time. You stop being selective. You give yourself away at the first sign of attention because attention felt like love and nobody ever taught you the difference.
But when you know?
You eat well. Move well. Sleep well. You don’t just be anywhere with anybody.
Stop auditioning for roles you already own. You are already the one. Not the backup. Not the option. The one.
never chase.
Not a man. Not a friendship. Not an opportunity. If you’re always the one initiating, always keeping something alive by yourself; you’re not in a relationship. You’re in a one-woman show.
When you chase, you sit in desperation. And desperation is a frequency. It attracts more of itself. More settling. More shrinking. More staying in places you’ve outgrown because the alternative feels uncertain.
But you were already chosen. Before the foundation of the world. Before he showed up. Before the opportunity existed. You were chosen.
So what are we chasing exactly?
Pull back. Center yourself. When you do that, you create real space. Room for something aligned to walk in. And if nothing walks in? You lost nothing. You gained the most valuable thing — yourself. Undiluted.
starting a faceless brand
I started my online business in July 2025. Right before Japan. No plan. No blueprint. I just started trying things.
And it wasn’t my first time building. I blew up on Tumblr under an alias, whole fandom, nobody knew it was me. Grew on TikTok. Built Godly Girlfriend from zero. I knew how to build an audience. But monetizing it? That was the wall I kept hitting.
I tried guides. How-tos. Prayer journals. Every kind of digital product. Months of nothing sticking. And then I gave up. I said whoever enjoys this stuff can enjoy it. I’m done.
And then one thing started working. Just one.
It really does tend to happen right when you’re about to quit. But you have to get to that point. You have to try. You have to try wrong. You have to try ugly. Messy action beats perfect planning every time because at least when you move you get information. Standing still tells you nothing.
You didn’t learn to ride a bike by thinking about it. You learned by falling off. Confidence doesn’t come from planning. It comes from doing the thing and surviving it.
a lot of us talk too much
I say this with love because I say it to my own friends. You don’t have to give away the whole book on the first interaction. You don’t have to trauma dump on someone new in the hopes that vulnerability fast-tracks a connection. You can be warm. You can be open. You can be present. Without emptying yourself.
Mystery is a superpower and too many of us are giving it away for free.
When you tell everyone what you’re building before it’s built, you expose the seed to air. Someone says “I don’t think that’s gonna work” and the excitement leaves your body. They didn’t mean harm. They just killed the thing before it had roots.
Nurture it in the dark. Let people see the bloom.
scarcity is a lie
Whether it’s men. Money. Opportunities. Friendships. Platforms. There is no reality where there isn’t enough. That doesn’t exist in the Kingdom.
I came that you might have life, and have it more abundantly.
Scarcity is what makes you tolerate things you shouldn’t. It’s what keeps you in rooms you’ve outgrown. It tells you this is the best you’ll get so you stop looking for the door.
But faithfulness is what multiplies things. Jesus didn’t panic when all He had was fish and bread. He gave thanks. He acknowledged that the Father hears Him. And from that place — not panic, not scarcity, not striving — multiplication happened.
You are a daughter of a King. You are Esther in every room you walk into. What is your request? Up to half the kingdom. She didn’t beg. She didn’t audition. She was faithful and the kingdom rearranged itself around her.
Stop begging for scraps at a table you were set at the head of.
i learned by doing
I had to know I had nothing to prove before I could give myself permission to build. I had to believe I could generate income without a paycheck before I could do it. I had to stop being more loyal to comfort than to the woman I was becoming. I had to walk away from things I didn’t deserve before better things had room to show up.
My very first internet name was Believe in Your Ability. I was maybe sixteen. Typed it in without thinking about it.
But that girl already knew. She already had the answer to every question I’ve spent years circling.
The gap between where you are and where you want to be is not a resource gap. It’s not a man gap. It’s not a follower gap or a savings gap or a timing gap.
It’s a belief gap.
Do you believe you are the kind of woman who multiplies what she’s been given? Or the kind who buries it and hopes nobody asks?
The master always comes back.
And when He does, I want to be the one who doubled it.
She might be you.
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