I was on one of my morning walks when I heard a sentence so clear it stopped me: “Your freedom is on the other side of who you’re resisting to become.”
And I couldn’t help but wonder, how many of us are resisting? How many of us are stuck in who we’ve always been, expecting life itself to move for us, instead of taking the steps we know are ours to take?
It made me think about the way we look at time passing, a year, two years, a decade. The scenery changes, but that doesn’t mean we’ve gone anywhere. Because scenery doesn’t move. We do. And yet so often, we don’t. We stay right where we are, in the safe little circle of who we’ve always been. We call it how things are right now. We call it stability. We call it the era before the next. We sometimes even call it reality. But really, it’s our comfort zone.
When you’re on a walk, you’re walking, not the trees. The path doesn’t move. You have to. Yet so many of us stay still, convincing ourselves the “right time” or the “right opportunity” or the “right guy” will arrive and carry us forward into the life we’ve always wanted to live.
But it never does. And I wondered if there was some girl out there right now, frustrated with her life not moving forward, not because she isn’t capable, but because she’s waiting for the trees to move for her. She’s waiting for her world to change before she does. That’s how the comfort zone works, it convinces you that stillness is safety, that if you just wait long enough the future will come to you.
Your comfort zone isn’t designed to deliver progress. It’s designed to keep you where you are. The familiar self you’ve been, her patterns, her choices, her excuses, she can’t take you where you’re meant to go. She was only built for yesterday. It’s your choice who you decide to be today. Who you are today will determine who you are tomorrow and so on.
Three months is all it takes to step outside of that zone. Not to change your life overnight, not to reinvent yourself into some shiny new character arc, but to finally move and cover ground. To put one foot in front of the other and let the resistance you feel become your compass. That uncomfortable would prefer to avoid spot in your career, your health, your relationships? That’s not failure, or being stuck, or life itself rebelling against you…that’s the edge of your comfort zone calling you forward. That’s your potential begging to be set free so it can express itself.
Don’t get carried away with the fantasy of reinvention. The “lock in” energy, the winter arc or whatever we’re calling it this week. Progress doesn’t come from the aesthetic of change, it comes from the responsibility of living it.Comfort zones love when you get high on the idea of change without ever actually doing it. What matters is smaller: deciding, today, that who you’ve always been isn’t who you have to keep being.
Allow yourself, for once, to spread your wings and learn how to fly.
(By the way, butterflies fly by clapping for themselves. There’s a lesson in there somewhere, sometimes the only encouragement you need is your own.)
So ask yourself: What is one part of your comfort zone you can step beyond in the next three months? And who might you finally become if you did?
TL;DR
Stop waiting for the scenery to change. Life isn’t going to move until you do.
Notice the resistance. Wherever you’re most uncomfortable right now, your career, your health, your relationships, that’s the doorway.
Give yourself 3 months. Not to reinvent everything, but to practice becoming the version of you that already exists in your imagination.
1. Because the price of excellence is discipline, I’m the most disciplined babe around
2. Because this train is moving too fast for me to throw rocks at barking dogs, I don’t give one single about what anyone (but Jesus) thinks or says about anything I wear, post, or do
3. Because my freedom is on the other side of who I’m resisting to become, I release myself now fully into the arms of God who crafted my purpose
just filmed part deux of this soooo make sure you know what’s up before sunday
I feel daylight saving looming and she might actually be cute this year anyway we are bringing back the magnesium mocktails (inspo from the best) with a quickness because it gives me sum’ to look forward to after a long day of being a girl oh this is the tart cherry juice i like bc its not from concentrate
the prettiest serum bottle you ever did have in your skincare fridge because fall nights were madeeee for routine - plus hack from my derm the key to glowing skin is skin that’s constantly resurfaced so any kind of chemical exfoliant (as many as your skin can take!) is your friend
the softest and warmest blanket for all of the iron deficient girls around town
honorable mention for candles that have become Pavlovian in response because I’ve been burning this scent since I was 14 bahaha - and since we’re on my favorite subject of sensory environments behold one of the coziest untouched by Tiktok Fall scents I’ve ever had the privilege of owning
