Stop Trying So Hard So You Can Finally Get Everything You Want
and welcome to August, the sunday of summerrr
Hiiiii,
If you feel the lock in in the air, it’s not by accident.
I’ve been like charging up so to speak and honestly itCHING to get back to YouTube so I can really break it down, but there are seasons on Earth and there are prophetic seasons. We just so happen to be walking into a really big one, some of us are already in it. Not to worry not to fret, you should be excited, some reprieve finally. Anyway. I think I have like 3 more weekends of moving around and visiting people until I should be sitting my beautiful super cute hecka fun self down until October or something.
Plus my semester will be starting again so gotta lock in for mf real there’s like no room for B’s in grad school which is like ? Be so serious shut up leave me alone.
Also if you see that my IG name changed or YT or anything in the next few weeks…I’m flirting with PhD applications and I need to be taken seriously as an academic researcher but I will FOREVERRR be Zozo to y’all okay FOR EVER! 😂🤍
Stop Trying So Hard So You Can Finally Get Everything You Want
Funny how life works because the harder you try, the less you achieve. The more desperate you are for something, the farther away it runs from you, and the less chill you are, the harder everything is including freaking breathing. Here’s how to stop being so serious and just relax for a second. Your skin will thank me and so will your nervous system.
Get Clear on What You Actually Want (Not What You Think You Should Want)
You gotta actually know what you want. Not what your mom wants, not what looks good on someone’s phone, not what you think you're "supposed" to want. What YOU want. Be honest about it.
Most people get the vision and then immediately start micromanaging God. It’s not your job and because it’s not your job you can’t effect anything there. Your job is to paint the picture, His job is to figure out shipping and handling (hello angelic host good morning).
I used to be SO guilty of this. I'd get clear on something I wanted and then create these insane 47-step plans with backup plans for the backup plans. Exhausting! Plus it never worked because I was literally trying to control outcomes that weren't mine to control.
Here's what actually works: Get super clear on the end result. how it feels, what it looks like, why you want it. Write it down, make a vision board, whatever helps you. Then PUT THE PLANNER DOWN and trust that it's handled.
Another really great thing is like visualizing the thing as if it’s the past. It requires a lot of concentration but it’s doable with practice. You feel better instantly. And you’re exercising your faith.
Trust Your Gut More Than Your Overthinking Brain
Your intuition is smarter than anxiety. But we've been conditioned to think our way through everything instead of feeling our way through.
You know that voice that's like "this feels right" or "something's off here"? That's your inner GPS and it's literally never wrong. But we ignore it because it doesn't come with a PowerPoint presentation explaining why with footnotes explaining from where.
Try this: Next time you're spiraling about a decision, take like three deep breaths and ask your body "what feels right here?" Not your brain your BODY. Your stomach, your chest, wherever you feel things.
That first hit of knowing? Before your brain starts making pro/con lists? That's your answer right there. Sometimes you’ll feel a physical sensation even.
Stop Judging Everything and Just Notice What's Gawn Awn
This is where we really mess ourselves up. Everything has to be good or bad, right or wrong, success or failure.
But when you're constantly grading your life miss teacher, you're not actually living it.
What if instead of being like "OMG I'm failing" you were just like "huh, this is what's happening right now"?
I used to beat myself up over every little thing that didn't go perfectly. Now I try to get curious instead of judgmental. Like "interesting, that didn't work out the way I thought it would. What's this trying to show me?"
Here's what I noticed:
When you stop making everything mean something about your worth, you actually make better decisions.
You see opportunities you would've missed while you were busy having a breakdown.
Try this for like a week: When something doesn't go your way, instead of immediately jumping to "this is terrible" just describe what's happening. "I didn't get the job." "That conversation was awkward." "I'm feeling anxious about this thing."
Sometimes the Move is Literally No Move
I know this goes against everything hustle culture taught us, but sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is absolutely nothing at all.
Have you ever noticed how your best ideas come in the shower? Or when you're walking your dog? Not when you're at your desk having a scrambling to pen down your next five-year plan.
There's something beautiful about creating space - real space not empty space where you're scrolling TikTok for three hours, but intentional peaceful space where good things can find you.
What this looks like:
Going for a walk when you're stuck instead of forcing it
Actually resting when you're tired instead of powering through
Going to bed instead of having a last minute productivity push that’ll leave you sleepy boots in the AM
Having real conversations with people instead of networking (my biggest peeve is when people ask within 2 seconds of meeting you what you do for work like shut up stop asking lol there are other things)
Clarity comes when the camera is out of focus. Not when you’re forcing the focus. See how it works?
Throw Out the Rulebook and Trust Your Flow
We're so obsessed with step-by-step everything. Five steps to this, ten ways to that. But real life isn't following someone else's manual, and you're not a robot.
You know what works better? Learning your own rhythm and actually honoring it instead of fighting it.
Maybe you're more creative at 2am. Maybe you make better decisions after you've talked it through with someone. Maybe you need to move your body before your brain works properly. I personally need to feel a zing in my brain that comes with walking for a while before I know my movement quota for the day is set and now I can be creative.
Pay attention to your patterns: When do you feel most like yourself? When do things flow easily? When do you make decisions you're actually happy with later?
Start working WITH yourself instead of against yourself. Wild concept, I know.
Here's What I Need You to Remember
You don't have to earn good things by suffering. You don't have to prove you deserve happiness by being stressed 24/7.
What if, and just sit with this for a second, what if you're already enough? What if the love, success, peace, whatever you're chasing is available to you right now, not as a reward for finally getting everything perfect? But as a reserve available whenever you need to draw from it? (enter Holy Spirit stage left)
The things you want aren't hiding from you or playing hard to get. You just need to stop chasing them so desperately and create space to actually receive them.
Your nervous system will thank you, your skin will clear up, and you'll probably sleep better too.
What would happen if you trusted your life to work out beautifully? Just wondering.
[we are doing this AGaIN!!]
Father in the name of Jesus in the name of Jesus. I cancel I I cancel every negative word every negative word that I have spoken that I have spoken things that have been against your will things that are against your will and your plan and your plan for my life for my life and the lives of others in the lives of others. Some things I spoke hastily. Some things I spoke hastily. Some things I spoke in fear. Some things I spoke in fear. Some things I spoke if they were wrong. Some things I spoke that they were wrong. Now Lord, now Lord, I ask you to clean the slate. I ask you to clean the slate. I ask you to treat me like I ask you to treat me like it never happened. It never happened. I ask you to bless the people. I ask you to bless the people. Those that I've spoken about those that I've spoken about. Make them successful. Make them successful. Make them hear your voice. Make them hear your voice and do your commands. and do your commands. Now Lord, Now Lord, I ask you I ask you angels angels that you've assigned to me. You've assigned to me. Help me to put them to work. help me to put them to work and not let them sit around and not let them sit around and lounge around the house. And lounge around the house. But it's time But it's time for me to win for me to win. And to win big. and win me. Now everything Now everything that has been stolen from me that has been stolen from me that Satan was the author of that Satan was the author of I ask you I ask you send the angels send the angels get back my property get back my property everything that belongs to me everything that belongs to me and restore and restore the years the years that the cankerworm has eaten that the canker worm has eaten Now Lord, now Lord, I'm turning it over to you. I'm turning it over to you. I'm praying to you. I'm praying to you. And I believe I believe what I have spoken here tonight what I have spoken here tonight is going to register in heaven is going to register in heaven. And if there are more angels needed, there more angels needed. Put them on the case. Put them on the case. It's time for the body of Christ to win. It's time for the body of Christ. Now I thank you for it. I thank you for I give you the praise for it. I give you the praise in Jesus name. in Jesus name. Amen.
From this teaching!
reading 📖: The Inner Game Of Tennis (audio) and Six Summers to Fall
eating 🥗: back on my soup bully made Clarke’s soup last night sans meat
playing 🎧: Nagode by Dunsin Oyekan
obsessing 🤠: finishing my book I started writing in 2022…TWENTY! TWENTY!!! TWOOOO!!!!!!!
recommending 💌: letting yourself have a lil fun
treating 🌟: enjoying the last of summer (even though it literally ends at the end of September lol)
you are the privilege in pretty privilege
Here's my thesis, and it might sound controversial: It doesn't matter what you look like. It only matters what you think about what you look like.
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MY DEVOO IS OUTTTTTT !! !!!!!!!!!!
Love you to LIFEEEEEEE,
Zozo