people adjust! or they disappear!

a chat about boundaries, manus ai, and moreeee

Mar 26, 2025

I used to think if I just explained myself well enough, people would get it. That the right words would unlock some level of understanding where everyone just… treated me how I expected.

But what I’ve learned is, and let’s be so fr, your boundaries don’t have to be spoken to be heard. When the text rolls in at 11pm from someone who only remembers you when their first plans fall through, you don’t have to send a long paragraph. You can just… not reply.

When someone keeps showing up in a way that drains you, you don’t owe them a breakdown of why they’re too much. You being unavailable is enough. You’re not rejecting them, you’re choosing you.

Boundaries don’t always need a monologue, in fact, people who over explain themselves are usually 9/10 insecure people pleasers who feel like they owe you an explanation of their existence as grounds for you to validate it for them (because they have no other source of validation of the fact).

Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is not respond, not explain, not overextend. Just move different. Quietly. Clearly.

People adjust. Or they disappear. Either way, your peace and skin is preserved.

The way you live and treat yourself will always reveal what you believe your worth is.

My brain can form new neural pathways with each challenge I embrace today.
When I take small breaks, I'm strengthening my focus and creativity.
By practicing gratitude, I'm activating positive neural circuits in my brain.
Each time I practice self-compassion, I'm rewiring my stress response.
My attention shapes my brain; today I choose to focus on growth.