Life Gets Better When You Look At It Like Dating

Every “frog” you meet is just leading you closer to your prince.

From Love Itself

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Zozo Shumba

Aug 20, 2025

Weekly Letter from Moi: If you’re chasing anything…stop. Like perfectionism, It’s embarrassing
4 Signs You’ve Outgrown Where You Are
Affirmations of the week
On the podcast(s!) + exciting announcement
What I’m On

I used to do this a lot when my self-esteem was in the actual bin. I would pine after guys who literally didn't not only want me but didn't even acknowledge that I existed. And if they did know I existed, they did the bare minimum while taking the maximum.

I would try to make myself into someone they could respect so that hey, maybe they'd respect me and I'd get what I want—but it never actually ended up happening how I wanted it to. It never resulted in what I wanted it to result in.

When you force things, they force you to deal with the consequences.

What I was doing was forcing something that wasn't there. I was striving after something that, in all actuality, should just come to me. People are attracted to you based on your spirit—that's your personality, your vibe, your aura, whatever—but they stay because of who you are.

What are you chasing? Because whatever you're chasing is running away from you already. Hence why you're chasing it.

What you want, not just in your relationships, but in your health and wealth, is to have whatever you desire come to you by virtue of you being you. If the you that you are isn't bringing what you want to see—surprise, ding ding—you've got some work to do to become the you who naturally attracts those things.

Jesus wants the very best for you. There are things that are just yours. Only yours. And they'll wait for you. You won't have to chase them. At all.

What you do today matters most. Who you are today through your habits matters most.

You don't have to chase anything when you already have everything.

If I be lifted up I'll draw all men unto me—Jesus said that. Do you realize that with Jesus there's no chasing? People come to Him because He's living water and everyone's thirsty. He lives in you. That means everything should come to you.

Change how you look at yourself and your whole life will change, girlie.

4 Signs You’ve Outgrown Where You Are

It feels like you’re living someone else’s life

You know the feeling. You’re going about your regular routine when all of a sudden you have this moment of not déjà vu, but something close. You’re like, wait, this is still my life? That’s not exactly right. I’m sure things are about to change soon. That awareness is your main sign that things are about to shift massively for you.

You’re more excited for your future than intimidated by it

When you’re going through transition, the future can seem daunting. You can feel desperate for it and afraid of it all at once because of uncertainty, lack of confidence in your growth, and a plethora of other reasons. The moment the switch flips and all of a sudden you’re looking forward to what can be? Yeah. You’ve outgrown this level. You beat it. Congratulations. Exam passed. Lessons learned.

The past doesn’t illicit an emotional response from you anymore

You’re not holding onto unforgiveness. You’re not holding onto hurt, bitterness, trauma - nothing. There’s no residue. It’s like the wound(s) are healed and you’re free to go through life again, this time with a whole new set of experiences and the wisdom from the past ones.

You’re open to how good life can get (!)

You’re excited! You no longer wonder how good things can get or how they’ll become that way, but you’re grateful and open to the reality of that goodness. There’s no alternative. You don’t believe in regression anymore. You know for a fact that what’s ahead of you is better than anything that’s ever been behind you.

Onwards and upwards, beauty.