How to Be More Confident Even If You're Not An Extrovert
It's all about acting the part
Are you familiar with the term, labor of love?
BUT FIRST ! Exciting news!!!! We have a Discord server now. Please join.
I avoided this for the longest time because I thought if we didn’t have 10,000 people in it on day one, it wasn’t worth it. But here’s what I’m learning in a lot of areas, actually: in order for you to build anything, that structure has to, at some point, have had nothing in place. Just a few bricks. Maybe not even that.
The beginning of every journey starts with a few steps and all of that cliche stuff. The beginning of every run starts with a few strides. And it’s as you go that you find your rhythm, then your flow, then the runner’s high.
So consider yourselves the founding members. This is a space for everyone under the From Love Itself umbrella. Honestly? I wish I had this at any point in my life. So I figured I’d just make it for you. And we’ll see what God does with it. Also, when I start teaching things like how to trade commodities! And how to think like Jesus thought! And how to pray so you can clock when a relationship is going nowhere! It’ll all be connected through the Discord so get excited.
Take that as a lesson for your own life. Just start. See what He does with it. He has a really great track record, so don’t be afraid of starting things.
And don’t be afraid of letting Him start you.
You know what I mean? The clay doesn’t shape itself.
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If you know me in real life you know, I’m not naturally extroverted. My ideal day is right now is a lil coffee, a lil croissant, and then straight back home with my Kindle in one hand and a Needoh squishy in the other. That’s my happy place. I love being with myself what can I say.
But in the event that I need to be on for one reason or another, I’ve learned how to seem like a total extrovert when I need to be. And you can too. It’s like playing a character in a movie, except the movie is your life. Here are five ways you can be the opposite of what’s comfortable too.
Just because you love one thing, doesn’t mean you are one thing. You’re allowed to be quiet at home and lively everywhere else. You can be on the shy capital S with strangers but over the top with your friends. All of these are the real you. Stop trying to pick just one. Another thing too, its way easier to be overly extroverted with strangers because you don’t even know them, and you hardly know your friends - see where I’m going with this?
At the end of the day you need connection. We all do. So even if small talk feels weird, you can learn to do it. Think of it like a muscle. The more you use it, the stronger it gets. You don't have to love being outward. You just have to do it sometimes, when you have to do it. If someone told you to be extroverted for three events and in exchange you’ll get 80 million dollars to do with as you please, I’m sure you could muster up some “Omg no ways, nu uh”’s.
Confidence comes from knowing what you’re good at. I used to think I wasn’t pretty enough or cool enough or nonchalant enough or Tumblr or VSCO enough then it was perfect enough what the freak ever. It really got to me. But then I started focusing on what I did like about myself. Every single day, I’d remind myself of one good thing.
Now? I can’t pass a mirror without thinking, “Okay, looking good.” Sometimes I even open my phone camera just to check myself out. No shame its not my fault my facial harmony is poetic. Also, my speaking voice sounds nice I like listening to it and I know how to use it to my advantage. :) That’s one of my things. Everyone has a thing, find yours and exploit it harder than the DeBeers family did to the minerals in South Africa, Namibia, Botswana etc.
Take care of yourself like you actually matter, because you do. Your skin, your body, your style. It all counts. The rule is pick two out of three. Your makeup, your hair, or your outfit. At least two of those should be on at any given moment you leave the house. You don’t have to be perfect. Just put in some effort and the world will mirror the energy back. Confidence = pride in how you take care of yourself.
If all else fails, be more interested in other people than in yourself. Really confident people don’t talk about themselves all the time. They don’t need to prove anything. They just ask questions. They’re curious.
Think about little kids. They’re not standing there worried about how they look. They’re too busy asking “Why?” about everything. That’s the energy. Be curious. The rest will follow. This also goes for dates.
Anyone can be confident presenting it just takes practice, and a little bit of acting.
Q: What kind of girl do you want to be? Trust your first answer.
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In case you need a reality check !
Don’t be Lola, don’t text him, don’t even think ab him tbf.
I can tell you guys because we’re close, we’re entering the blitz that is me marketing my very first real, wrote every line off the dome, started writing it before ChatGPT was even a thing BOOK. I’m so excited and I hope you are too.
