how to be interesting

it's easier than you think

Zozo Shumba

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Zozo Shumba

Aug 27, 2025

this is how all of life works

1. be interested

if you want to be interesting, you have to be interested. as within so without. be interested in the world around you, in people - the most important part of being interesting to others is listening well and making them feel like what they say, how they are, everything about them matters.

the iceberg effect

Icebergs have a tip that sits above the water, and much more that hides below the surface.

Iceberg tip: Girls who seem to seamlessly slide into any conversation and offer an opinion or comment that’s actually valuable?

Below the surface: They likely listen to a wide variety of audiobooks, podcasts, and read a few interesting articles per day.

If you spend 99% of your free time scrolling Tiktok, gossiping about people you don’t know, you won't be very balanced when it comes to interests. You'll be at a disadvantage during conversations that don’t revolve around your pop culture bubble.

2. get a seasonal girl hobby

Here are a few to get your creative juices flowing because you have free will

Candle Pouring: think fig, tobacco, bergamot instead of basic pumpkin spice
Pressed Leaf Art: turning foliage into framed collages or book inserts
Soup Clubz: gathering friends to trade recipes (and to eat)
Fermenting: making your own kombucha, kimchi, or sourdough with fall produce
Tea Rituals: building a personal tea practice with oolongs, matcha, or seasonal chai
Autumn Reading Clubs/ Group Chats: Fall TBR favs only
Stargazing: download a sky map and chart fall constellations
Pumpkin Painting Parties: chic versions with metallic paints or minimalist line art
Silent Book Club: meet up with your one friend you can do nothing with and just do stuff together without like talking and then get food after and shop

Get a life, don’t just watch other peoples’ <3