growing up isn't scary when you have a regulated nervous system
it's also the will of God for you so get your up class
the snow is melting (if you live on the STRIP OF LAND that is the east coast)
and I couldn’t be happier. I’ve been thinking about the future a lot lately not in a doomsday way, but in a…I was literally born at the exact right time for the way my mind works.
And I think you were too. One of these days I’m going to do an AI for girls class if you’re interested, because never in the history of ever has it been easier to go from a concept in your mind, to voice note, to thing in your hand that you can use or create from. I’ve also been thinking about time in general. And how your late 20s, our late 20s are weird! We never got an early 20s! It was inside. But, like all things, I think that was by design.
Better is the end of a thing than the beginning and all that. If your’e feeling nostalgic about the future you almost lived, or could’ve lived, I want you to remember that your story isn’t just starting, it already started. You’re in it. And it’s quite frankly one of the greatest stories I’ve ever read.
If your immediate response to that line was, what? No it’s not.
Change something.
Quickly.
The very essence of who you are depends on it.
Letter from the EditorRegulate Your Nervous System Today Or You’ll Repeat Tomorrow
What You Missed on From Love Itself TV
it’s not a wellness trend. it’s what He’s been trying to give you this whole time.
You know that girl who just looks like she has it together? Not in a try-hard way. In a “she’s clearly at peace with herself” way. Clear skin, calm energy, moves slow, doesn’t react to everything. She doesn’t have a secret product or a 5am routine. She has a regulated nervous system.
God has literally been prescribing this since Genesis. “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest” Let’s use context clues because…. … is that not what the girls are on and on about?
Here are 7 signs your nervous system is…in need of a reset... of sorts
you try to pray. try to journal. try to just SIT. and within like 30 seconds your hand is already on your phone. stillness feels wrong. silence feels like a waste of time and space. being alone with your own thoughts is genuinely uncomfortable.
why this happens: your nervous system has been in fight-or-flight so long that calm feels like danger. your brain needs constant input because sitting still means feeling what you’ve been avoiding.
what to do about it: 2 minutes of silence a day. that’s it. no music, no prayer, no guided meditation. just silence. set a timer. let your body learn that nothing bad happens when you stop. “
⭐⭐⭐ But when you’re done, do my 15 minute guided visualization / meditation because it’ll change your life and I can only deliver it if you give me your email so I know where to send it!!
8 hours. 10 hours. doesn’t matter. you wake up drained. caffeine is doing the lord’s work by 9am and you crash by 3. and if one more person tells you to “get an oura ring” you might lose it.
why this happens: even when you’re asleep, your nervous system isn’t resting. cortisol stays elevated, your body is still scanning for threats, and you never actually drop into deep recovery sleep. you’re unconscious but your body is still working overtime.
what to do about it: deep breathing before bed. 5 minutes. inhale 4, hold 4, exhale 6. it activates your parasympathetic nervous system which is a fancy way of saying it tells your body “you’re safe, you can actually rest now.” Also, if you don’t, play the Bible or worship music while you sleep. Helps.
you’ve tried the serums. the gut supplements. the dermatologist. it clears up for like a week and then right back. and the breakouts ALWAYS come after stressful seasons or people but you keep treating it like a skincare issue.
why this happens: stress destroys your gut and your hormones, and both show up on your face. when your nervous system is wrecked, your body can’t absorb nutrients properly, inflammation stays high, and cortisol triggers excess oil production. the root is not your skin. it’s your stress.
what to do about it: slow walks. not power walks. not “hitting 10k steps.” slow, intentional, no-earbuds walks outside. David wrote the Psalms tending sheep in fields. Jesus regularly withdrew to quiet places. Walk for the joy of it.
you eat well. you move. you drink water. still bloated. still puffy. still holding weight in places that don’t make sense. you’re starting to feel like your body is working against you.
why this happens: chronic stress tells your body to hold onto everything; fat, water, all of it, because it thinks you’re in danger. it’s a survival mechanism. your body is trying to protect you. it just doesn’t know the threat isn’t real.
what to do about it: gentle movement. stretching, pilates, something that tells your body “i’m with you” not “i’m punishing you.” your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit and you don’t renovate a temple with a wrecking ball. move in a way that feels like care. your body will start releasing what it’s been gripping onto. I love ballates (ballet pilates) and barre for this exactly.
you KNOW you should sleep. but you can’t stop scrolling. or you’re online shopping at midnight again. or it’s the food thing. or it’s all three.
why this happens: it’s not a willpower problem. your nervous system is screaming for relief and your brain is grabbing the fastest dopamine it can find. scrolling, sugar, spending; same reward pathway. you might not be as undisciplined as you think.
what to do about it: journal before the scroll window hits. 10 minutes. free write. dump it all, the anxiety, the frustration, the stuff you can’t say out loud. this is literally what David was doing in the Psalms; he was processing his way toward it. clear the mental clutter before your brain goes looking for an escape.
you say “i’m good” and don’t mean it. you smile when you’re falling apart. you’ve gotten so good at looking fine that nobody even checks on you anymore. your whole life feels like a character you’re playing and you are TIRED.
why this happens: authenticity requires vulnerability and vulnerability requires safety. if your body doesn’t feel safe, your brain will choose pretending to be who you used to be over honesty every single time. watch this one because it’s first cousin is people pleasing. It’s biologically a threat to you being your hottest self.
what to do about it: be honest with yourself. if it’s true for you right now, talk to someone you love, do something to feel creative again, the goal is to get energy moving in the direction of your authentic self.
At the end of the day girl,
all that stuff you want, the clear skin, the calm energy, the magnetic presence, the consistency, the glow that doesn’t need a filter or filler, it’s all downstream of a body that finally feels safe.
and God has been saying this the WHOLE time.
“The peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds.” Shalom means wholeness. nothing missing, nothing broken. spirit, soul, and body.
He was never about you striving or working your way into being a better person. He was always about transformation from the inside out.
you’re the girl who wants the best of everything. good. so does He. and it starts with a nervous system that’s you let take a freaking breather omg. Just think about Rihanna.
Happy and minding her business.
Q: I wire you 100k right now, what are you doing with it?
(hint: your first answer reveals what has your heart)
