Don't Try Too Hard It's Making You Anxious

the more anxious you are the farther you are from what you want

Aug 13, 2025

HeyYyYyyYy yalll,

Happy beautiful week whatever it is of August. I’m currently sending this en route to my old thing (NYC not a person) and I’m just reflecting on what the Holy Spirit told me literally yesterday.

I was overwhelmed as one gets when they’re juggling 94848389393 things, and almost audibly I heard

“Do not worry. Never worry.”

And it came so strongly I pray each and every one of you invests your time and energy into building a strong relationship with the Holy Spirit because He’s my best friend !!! Teacher !!! Lover of my SOUL !!! Anyway. Never worry.

You gotta treat worrying like smoking. The nastiest habit you’ll never do. I hate smoking. Of all kinds.

I hate cigarettes. I hate what smoking does to the bodies and minds of people. I hate how it opens the door to addictions of all kinds! Instead of treating worrying like an emotion or pastime treat it as a habit you’ve learned over time that’s as wack as smoking. I hate smoking! Never smoke. Never worry. It’s disgusting. In the reality God exists in, there’s no need to worry because He’s all sufficient. That’s what He meant. Never worry. There’s no point. Just don’t do it. If you’re tempted, imagine you’re picking up a cigarette or whatever else the kids are plugging in and getting a nicotine fix from.

Never worry.

How to Stop Stressing About Outcomes

You know that feeling when you check your phone for the tenth time today, hoping he finally texted back? Or read your message? Or when you step on the scale three times in a row, adjusting your stance every time? Maybe it's refreshing your bank account, trying to figure out if you can do what you want to dooo.

We've all been there. That anxious feeling when we want something so badly that we can't think about anything else.

The thing is though, when we tie our happiness to things we can't control, we end up stressed and often push away the very things we want most.

Why Focusing on Results Is Negative Aura

When we obsess over outcomes, we create unnecessary stress in our lives. Here's how it shows up:

In Dating: You analyze every text message. You change your plans based on whether someone responds. You find yourself being someone you're not just to get (read keep) their attention.

In Health & Beauty: The scale decides your mood for the day. You compare your body to every influencer you see. One "bad" meal makes you feel like you've ruined everything

In Money: You check your savings account daily, getting anxious about every purchase. You stress about investments going up and down instead of focusing on your longterm plan.

In Personal Growth: You quit your new morning routine after missing two days because you're so focused on being "perfect" that any slip-up feels like you just failed.

Instead of focusing on what might happen, focus on what you can control right now. It's that simple.

In Dating: Stop waiting for texts. Focus on being the amazing person you are. Spend time with friends, pursue your hobbies, travel, to that new restaurant. When you're living your best life, the right people are drawn to you naturally.

In Health & Beauty: Put the scale away. Focus on eating foods that make you feel good, moving your body in ways you enjoy, and taking care of your skin. Your body responds better to love than stress.

In Money: Stop obsessing over daily account balances. Focus on your spending habits, learn about investing, or develop skills that help you earn more (like daytrading!)

When you shift your energy from worrying about results to taking action, you get your power back. And you feel so much better.

Mindset Switches

1. Change How You Measure Success

Instead of "Did I get what I wanted?" ask "Did I do my best with what I had today?" Success is about showing up, not just winning.

2. Figure Out What Your Best Looks Like

If you don't know what your best effort is, that's your starting point. Try new things. Push yourself. Pay attention to when you feel most like yourself. The more you push yourself, the easier it is to know what you capacity is and when you know your capacity you know your limits (that don’t exist tbh)

3. Focus Only on What You Control

End of.

Remember, this is a practice. Focus on your process instead of your results.

Questions to Think About:

What outcome have you been stressing about lately?
How would things feel different if you focused only on what you can control?

Who you're becoming isn't about what happens to you, it's about how you show up for your life. Life comes from you, not at you. When you embrace this mindset, you'll realize something powerful: you already have everything you need to feel successful, right now.

Pick one area where you've been focused on results. This week, put all your energy into the daily actions you can control. Notice how this affects both your peace of mind and what happens irl.