5 Voice Shifts That Make You More Magnetic

life update, news is back what was that met gala, prayer for kind speech

TOWN HALL UPDATE 🥑

in ine with the great evoluational (is that a word) experiment that this newsletter continues to be, for the next little while, it’s going to be variable! I started this year saying it’d be daily, we tried daily, I enjoyed daily, I now want to see if I’ll enjoy some other more thougghtful cadence. Anytime i find myself having to do something I enjoy, I avoid it because the stipulation make me hate it off jump and i do NOT hate thissss omg. So anyway, that is the update, happy May, may all your dreams come true, may heaven hear you before you call, I’d be surprised if they didn’t because Jesus already has okay okay okayokayokay BESOS NO Z BUT MAYBE A MISS BC I JUST FINISHED AND DEFENDED MY MASTERS DEGREE TUESDAY?!?!?

☆ TOWN HALL UPDATE

☆ NEWS

☆ MOTIVE

☆ 5 Voice Shifts That Make You More Magnetic

☆ Kind Speech Prayer

NEWSSSSS IS BACK

BY POPULAR DEMAND

the met was mid 😭

The Met Gala raised a record $42 million on Monday, which is great for the Costume Institute and not great for the carpet. The theme was “Fashion is Art.” The dress code was also “Fashion is Art.” Very circular.

Best dressed, if you’re asking moi: Emma Chamberlain in Mugler, Venus Williams in Swarovski, Paloma Elsesser in Bureau of Imagination, Yseult in Harris Reed.

Best glam: Anok Yai, Hunter Schafer, Jennie, Sabrina Carpenter, Laufey. Honestly, people are saving their real looks for Cannes at this point. The Costume Art exhibit opens May 10 at the Met. Iris Van Herpen: Sculpting the Senses opens at the Brooklyn Museum on May 16 with 140 couture pieces. Battle of the fashion exhibits is the real event.

• say this: “The Met Gala raised $42 million and was mostly boring. Beyonce came back after ten years in a diamond skeleton gown and brought Blue Ivy, who is 14. the Met made a rare exception. also: the real move this month is two fashion exhibits opening back to back. Costume Art at the Met on May 10 and Iris Van Herpen at the Brooklyn Museum on May 16.”

add to cartttt 😍

Dior just dropped the Addict Glass Lipstick. the formula is 90% oils so it gives a glass-like shine without the stickiness people usually hate about gloss.

rip spirit 💔

Spirit shut down. like, fully. May 2, all flights canceled, 17,000 people out of a job. first major US airline to fold in 25 years. the CEO said “we just kind of ran out of runway,” which feels like a line he should not have used. bondholders rejected a Trump administration bailout that could have been up to $500 million.

Then Delta announced it’s cutting complimentary snacks and drinks on flights under 350 miles starting May 19. about 450 daily flights. LA to San Francisco, JFK to Boston, Atlanta to Charlotte. What is going awnnnnnnn.

the world right now 📹

Iran is reviewing a one-page, 14-point deal to end the war. the US and Israel launched this campaign in February. Jared Kushner and Steve Witkoff are leading the talks. the big sticking point is uranium enrichment: Iran proposed a 5-year pause, the US wants 20, and they’re reportedly landing around 12 to 15. Trump says a deal could come within a week. Iran is expected to respond within 48 hours.

A Russian drone hit a kindergarten in Sumy, Ukraine, on Wednesday. killed two people, injured seven. no children were inside. Russia then threatened a future mass strike on Kyiv in response to Ukrainian threats to disrupt Russia’s WWII anniversary commemorations this weekend.

• say this: “Iran and the US are reportedly close to a deal. the sticking point is how long Iran pauses uranium enrichment. they’re negotiating between 5 and 20 years. Trump says it could be done within a week. also, a Russian drone hit a kindergarten in Ukraine. two people were killed. no children were inside.”

the dating research no one asked for but you needed 🍚

A new study from Reichman University and the University of Rochester found that sexualized dating profiles actively sabotage your chances at long-term relationships. they showed people identical profiles, same attractiveness, same lighting, same angles. the only difference was revealing clothes and flirtatious poses versus normal ones. the sexualized versions were rated less desirable for anything serious. this held across three separate experiments and even when people watched video intros instead of photos.

• say this: “a study just showed that sexy dating profiles make people see you as less desirable for a real relationship. same person, same photos, same attractiveness. the only difference was the pose and the outfit. held up across three experiments.”

5 Voice Shifts That Make You More Magnetic

People feel your voice before they hear what you’re actually saying

This is lowkey just how listening works. Tone, pace, warmth, the amount of tension behind the sound, all of it lands before the words do. So by the time someone has registered what you said, they’ve already decided how it felt to be near you while you said it.

That’s what I mean by a magnetic voice. Not loud. Not polished. Not radio-ready. Just relaxed and connected to your body, the kind of voice people lean toward instead of bracing against.

Five shifts that help.

1. Listen to the voice other people actually hear.

The voice in your head isn’t the voice anyone else is hearing. You hear yours through bone, vibrations rattling around your skull. Everyone else hears it through air. That gap is why the first time you hear yourself on a recording you flinch.

Stop flinching. Get curious instead. Your recorded voice is the only honest data you have about how you actually sound to other people, your pace, your warmth, where you carry tension, whether you trail off at the end of sentences. Magnetic women aren’t afraid to know how they’re being received. Tbh who cares but when your hobby is living, you get interested in every aspect of it.

2. Let your voice relax before you speak.

A magnetic voice starts relaxed. I don’t mean lazy or mumbly. I mean unclenched.

Your body’s tension shows up in your voice almost immediately, listeners can hear all of it, even if they couldn’t name what they’re hearing. Before anything that matters (a meeting, a video, a voice note, a conversation you care about), take one slow breath. Drop your shoulders. Unclench your jaw. Start from ease, not pressure.

3. Speak from your body, not just your head.

A thin voice gets stuck up high, in the throat, behind the teeth, somewhere in your nose. A fuller voice has more of you behind it. It moves through your chest, your ribs, your belly. That’s resonance.

You don’t need to drop into some fake low register. You just need to let the sound travel through more of you. A long sigh before you speak helps. So does humming for ten seconds. So does noticing where your voice currently lives and letting it sit a little lower.

4. Make people feel safe to listen.

The voices I find most magnetic aren’t selling me anything. They’re not rushing me, correcting me, or working too hard to impress me. They’re just present. They give me room.

This matters everywhere — content, leadership, teaching, dating, friendship, business, the way you say goodnight to someone. People forget your exact words almost immediately. They remember how it felt to be in your presence. Your voice is doing more of the communication work than you think.

5. Sigh before you speak.

The simplest exercise, and the one I keep coming back to. Sigh first.

Try it before recording. Try it before answering a call. Try it before sending a voice note. Try it the second you notice your shoulders climbing toward your ears. A sigh resets your nervous system, drops your voice into your body, and gives you a softer place to start from.

Your voice doesn’t need to become someone else’s. It just needs more access to you. That’s the whole shift, not performing harder, just showing up more relaxed and more present in the voice you already have.

Kind Speech Prayer

God, no matter whom I talk to, please make my speech gracious and kind. Teach me to respond to people with compassion and respect. And let the words I say and the things I think reflect Your character and bring You glory.

In Jesus’ name, Amen.